Tuesday, August 19

Mend Able...


Tera jaisa yaar kahaan
Kaha aise yaaraana
Yaad karegi duniya
Tera mera aphsaana

{Where is a friend like you?
Where is such a friendship?
This world will remember
Your and mine virtual world of love}



Lyrics are so whetted at times. The evergreen Amithabh Bachchan is singing on screen in film Yaraana. I love these words, a song which epitome’s friendship. 26 years of life of his had shown me many such relationships in real. When I bought the DVD print of the 35 year old movie I had only one thing on mind. I always love to cherish friendships portrayed between the two protagonists of the movies like Yaraana and Sholay.


Through them I live in those college days of mine. I vividly remember Vignesh a.k.a Vigs and his friendship with Pavan, a.k.a Pavi. When both of them came to this city, they were like everyone else; Strangers. They both were naïve and shy those days, but yet very chummy. Vigs got so many friends in his lifetime, but none like Pavi. They never realised when such a casual college friendship turned into a soul connecting relationship. They never moulded it in that way, but were in their destiny.


Vignesh was a talkative person to the core. Be it any topic under the earth, he got an opinion. And hell he didn’t give a damn whether his opinions were worth a debate or not, he used to express it. Teasing others was his forte, but he never gave others any chance to get offended. His presence gave the liveliness in our group. He was keener on styles and tried to execute them. His low waist jeans and buffoon shoes were a hit in college. Pavan on the other hand was a bit reserved. He was very expressive but only when he felt there is a need to. Styles mattered to him but were very conservative. He was more emotional, experimental and quite intelligent. When befriended, he was one of the best entertainers we all had in our group.


Vigs and pavi, they were always together. Both had their own friends initially. Slowly, as days passed all their friends became common. They went for movies, roamed around on the same bike. They paid each others hotel bills many a times, shopped together and studied together. Canteen, Reading Hall, Classes, College Veranda’s, Tea Shop Corner, everywhere they used to be together. They watched porn movies together and eyed at college beauties together. I remember the way Vigs and Pavi used to tease each other mentioning their crush from their college. Bunking classes were a normal routine for them. Others in the college defined them joyful, helpful and inseparable. The booze sessions with them in the group were the best I ever had. Vigz and Pavi both used to take the same brand-Bacardi’s, Romonov’s, and Cannon 10000’s and what not. They both preferred to take their first two pegs a 90 ml neat one; preferred Chicken lollypop for biting more than anything and even tried fag together. All those spicy, sex talks transpired after that was memorable.




Those were the days. Today I realise it’s not the same as before. The distance, once they didn’t let come in between, was there looking at them dreadfully. Their lives had separated them more than the physical distance. Last days of theirs were not pleasing. They never let the world know about the heat that burnt their relationship. Whatever it is, I was sure their relationship had grown more to that. Alas! I wish it was like that.


Few months back I met Vigs when he had come here for a business meeting. We talked a lot. The three years of professional life had brought lots of changes in him. He is much more matured than he used to pretend in his earlier days. He was still a chatterbox, but very articulate. When I asked about what stirred his relation with Pavi he initially chose to remain mute. He put me out of their misery by stating that somewhere, something went wrong. His mind, even now, boggles whom to blame. He is a martyr to the bleeding of emotions, still oozing from his conscience, even after so many days. A little effort would have made things on the other side, I felt. A more matured act should have assured him a great gift forever. His eyes got wet in agreement with my thoughts. He had only two pegs of drinks, maybe he never enjoy the drinks anymore as much as he used to enjoy them with Pavi.


Last day when I received a mail from Pavi, I could sense the vacuum of a good friend in his life. Maybe, Vigs and Pavi need each other as much as they were before. Is not the relation mend able?


I played the song once again.

Tera jaisa yaar kahaan
Kaha aise yaaraana
Yaad karegi duniya
Tera mera aphsaana


I switched of the player and television. Got up from my comfy couch and headed towards the bed room. It’s high time to catch some sleep and give the flustered mind, a rest. Before crawling into the winter blanket I took the Ipod. Inserting the headphones, I had only one song in mind to play and there in front my eyes were Vigz and Pavi, four years younger.

26 comments:

HOBO said...

Great post.
Hoping for the best.
:.(

lukkydivz said...

i've always wondered if friendship between guys can get as intense as it is between girls :)
i love your post!

*~*{Sameera}*~* said...

Awww that was so touching!My best friend and I had separated the same way and got back just recently after fifteen months,thanks to another friend just like you.Maybe you could patch them up? :)

Btw,the three friends here reminded me of the three in DCH!

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@Hobo

yeah, its what makes the world move..!!

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@divz

oh yeah..we guys also do maintain and cherish such intense relationships...

i am surprised how u framed such an opinion the other way..!!

:)

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@sameera,

oh great for you sameera..to get back to your friend..happy to hear that..these things are always mend able..!! its just that we need to take the initiative

:)

Divkiran said...

Hey ...reminded me of DCH, just like sam said

well, the whole frnsdhp thng has been takin a toll on me as well these days!!! i don like the whole driftin apart scene for wtever reason it maybe...to senti bout my frnz so dunno wt to say :(

RiverSoul said...

Maybe you are meant to reunite them. Maybe it will work out.
But there are a few friendships which are akin to glassware- once broken, you can fix them, but the cracks always show.
Forgive my wet-squib approach to this, but I'm drawing from personal experiences.

Also, here's another point to moot over:
Someone asked a world renouned philosopher: when is the right time to end a friendship?
His reply: when You Get That SNEAKY FEELING that your friendship never had begun in the first place!
What say you?

PS. And thanks for visiting my blog.
I await your visits in the near future too:)

phoenix said...

you knoq if they are good friends... or friends worth treasuring... then surely things will fall into place...time is irrelevant here and this i believe and i have seen over a period of time....

Keshi said...

Emotional post Vinu!

**..these things are always mend able..!! its just that we need to take the initiative



And I really like wut u said there. Cos often in blogville I've had some spats with friends. But I hv always been the one to take the initiative to patch up. And its fine with me, even if/when it wasnt my fault. Cos u know, someone has to make that first step to patch up!


Keshi.

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@divkiran

...DCH..but this is a real story..atleast the concept..drifting apart is painful..tht too when we are in a stage of requiring them..friendship is meant to be together at times of hardship....mm..but the thing is that its only us who are responsible for the drifting away, maybe..

:)

Vinz aka Vinu said...

Also, here's another point to moot over:
Someone asked a world renouned philosopher: when is the right time to end a friendship?
His reply: when You Get That SNEAKY FEELING that your friendship never had begun in the first place!
What say you?

@Soulreaver

mmm..yeah..its true..but i think the glass can be made look good if we overlook the crack..its better than having shattered glass pieces..

the philosopher was true..such a feeling should be ended attended then and there..it avoids unpleasant situations..but here i am talking about something which went wrong unintentionally..maybe because of the immaturity in the relationship or maybe within themselves...to realise what went wrong and to accept what is wrong can be medicine to heal the wound..wt say..?

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@phoenix,

exactly..i second your thought..am a firm believer..time itself brings that maturity and healing..

:)

Vinz aka Vinu said...

Emotional post Vinu!

**..these things are always mend able..!! its just that we need to take the initiative

I really meant that keshi..

and regarding the patch up...yeah an initiative is must..whether it was our fault or not..if it was our fault, that's the best thing we can do..accept it and patch up..and if it was not our fault also, try patching up..maybe our own behavior might have provocative for the fallout..so why not give a try..

anyways your stand is always commendable..

:)

D said...

It hurts the most when your best china breaks up. To lose a much-cherished friendship is something like that.

Vinz aka Vinu said...

yeah..it hurts..but some break ups never hurts..when its ego centric..

i believe much cherished friendships are never gonna break up..its just a 'commercial break' happens..we have to wait for the second part..

:)

Divkiran said...

A lil disagreement here Vinu

sometimes u can take the first step, try really hrd but nthn happns still...thts whn u don know wt to do...still bel thngs gonna be ok n hope for best n suffer from nostalgia n sadness...or just let go...

god its so confusin...lol

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@divkiran

oh then just let it go...thats all we can do then..my point is to give a try atleast once or twice..atleast in a later stage we wont feel guilty of not trying to revive the relationship....if its not working then also just leave it..dont bother..if its supposed to be there, it will defeinitly come back..i mean the charm in the relationship..

:)

yeah such things are always confusing..!!

Diana said...

Hi Vinu....Even me and a close frnd of mine have been in same boat...but we havent gt a chance to get back together...perhaps none of us want to take the initiative.

Good post dear..

Thanks for visiting my blog....

Ur posts are equally good.

DIANA

Chriz said...

some friends really make us smile.. such a good post with in depth emotions.. thans for coming to my page

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@diana

try taking the initiative..maybe it will work again..!!you never loose anything..!!

thnx for dropping by..

Vinz aka Vinu said...

@chriz

yeah...some actually does...all the time..!!

:)

Divkiran said...

hmmmmm
woh to hai

well said...as hrd as it may be, sumtmz we jst cnt do nthn else bt let go!!!

hmmmmmmmmm

Vinod R Iyer said...

Each of them would have 1 or 2 people in their lives who they can call "best friends". But apart from that I guess the rest of the relationships is need based. At some angle or the other ..

Vinz aka Vinu said...

yeah very much...but if porblems arise among those 1 or 2... ;)

Vinz aka Vinu said...

??
tht was a question.. :)